Building good habits is crucial for success in all areas of life. It’s not just about brushing teeth or making the bed; it’s about cultivating a mindset of self-discipline, perseverance, and continuous improvement. I recently read James Clear’s best-selling book, Atomic Habits and I want to explore key principles inspired by Clear to help you guide your children towards a life of positive habits. To begin, put your mind on a single habit you would like your child to adopt then plan to make it obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying.

To make a habit obvious, start by helping your child identify the cues that trigger it. For instance, if the goal is to read more, the cue could be finishing dinner or seeing the bookshelf. Utilize visual reminders like sticky notes, habit trackers, or a designated reading corner to make the habit more visible and accessible. Consider stacking habits by combining a new habit with an existing one, such as ”After I brush my teeth, I will read for 15 minutes.”

To make a habit attractive, emphasize the long-term benefits to your child. For example, explain “Reading will make you smarter and more imaginative.” Make a big deal out of getting a library card. Turn habit formation into a game by using reward charts, point systems, or small prizes to make the process more engaging. Encourage your child to find a friend or sibling who shares the same habit-building goal, fostering a sense of camaraderie and mutual support.

To make a habit easy, remove any obstacles that might hinder your child’s success. For example, if the goal is to read more, ensure interesting books are readily available. Employ the Two-Minute Rule by starting with small increments that take less than two minutes to complete, making it easier to build momentum. Utilize technology to automate habits when possible. Set reminders, schedule reading time on a calendar, or subscribe to educational resources to streamline the process.

To make a habit satisfying, provide immediate rewards for completing it. This could involve verbal praise, a small treat, or simply acknowledging their sense of accomplishment. Help your child track their progress visually using a habit tracker, a progress chart, or a simple checklist. Celebrate their milestones, no matter how small, to reinforce the positive feelings associated with the habit.

By applying these principles inspired by James Clear, you can empower your children to build strong, positive habits that will benefit them throughout their lives. Remember to be patient and consistent because building good habits takes time and effort. Encourage them to persevere, even when they face setbacks. Focus on one habit at a time to avoid overwhelming your child by trying to change too many things at once. The most important advice I can give is to lead by example. Children learn by observing. Model the habits you want them to develop because they are watching you closer than you realize.

Pam Kerley has a master’s degree in Youth, Family, and Community Science and is the 4-H Program Assistant at the N.C. Cooperative Extension, Lee County Center. For more information about this resource and others contact Lee County 4-H. 4-H is a positive youth development program that offers activities to fit various interests, backgrounds, budgets, and schedules. In Lee County, 4-H provides opportunities for youth through in-school programs, after-school activities, clubs, and camps, welcoming all children eager to have fun, learn, and grow. In North Carolina, 4-H is powered by NC State Cooperative Extension and NC A&T University, bringing expert knowledge, resources, and practical tools to enrich daily life and support community well-being.

This article was first printed in the January 18th edition of the Sanford Herald.